You see old couples,
Who you believe have endured?
Spent LONG YEARS together,
Half-century or more?
You wonder their secret(s)?
How did they do it?
You wish that you could…
If you ever would…
Do you really?
Or measuring, what you think should be there.
Make the BEST,
Be happy in oneself,
To thine own self be true.
If you talked to them, if they told you,
I think you would find,
Their path was not easy, not always sublime.
You might even be amazed, appalled,
At some history they lived.
You see love and support, winks, pets and pats,
Smootches and giggles, and tips of the hat,
They too grappled with anger, disappointment,
Poor judgement, mistakes,
Passion in quakes,
Somehow, they made it to here,
You might too,
If you persevere,
Year after year,
Messy but true: Some of the sweetest couples that I have ever known, who inspired their grandchildren…
separations (even for long years).
If there is a scrap of respect,
With anger, hatefulness, disappointment and hurt aside…
If God is at all invited into life…
If one or two parties of the marriage are not ready to GIVE UP and involve someone else (divorce/re-marry), then
There is HOPE.
Hang on to it.
Maybe take a time out.
To sort it out, and heal,
Couples may be shy to tell you about the worst of it that they survived.
They are happy when they are able to put it behind them. This is partly why I feel privileged that I witnessed, with my own senses, or by first hand story, THERE IS MOST OFTEN HOPE.
I offer these Bible Verses as a light-house to signal the way to HOPE for BETTER:
Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, …honest…just…pure…lovely…of good report…virtuous…praiseworthy…THINK ON THESE THINGS.
Let nothing e done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves.
1 Thessalonians 5:17
Pray without ceasing.
This post is part of a lovely series of Telling Hearts. If you missed the rest of it, you can connect HERE. You will be happy that you did. Thanks for visiting, and we would be so pleased if you shared some your own messy, true, and wonderful, with us in the comments.